A short bio
Hello everyone, I am honoured to be the member of the month in our community.
I am Florentina Isabella, from Romania I am 39 years old, I work in private practice with adolescents and adults, individual and couples.
I worked in the banking field until 2012 when I decided to dedicate myself entirely to psychotherapy, which I see as the profession of maturity and of my personal integration. I completed the I.P. training in 2011, when I started working under supervision. Since then, my personal integration has merged with my development and work as an integrative psychotherapist.
I have chosen integrative psychotherapy from the very beginning and someone once asked me why I like I.P. I reflected a lot on this question, and the answer would be: because it is a living, deeply humanistic approach, especially because of the philosophy and the nonpathogenic vision and because it is very coherent, consistent and complete. Because it is very nuanced and is has a depth that I did not find in other approaches.
How IIPA training has changed you as a person, and how has it changed the way you work?
I believe very much in the healing power of healthy and authentic relationships based on openness, vulnerability and empathy and I have also experienced in my own life the liberating force of soul-mind-body integration. I am a therapist and a constantly developing person who gives attention and dedication to each client. I am a therapist and at the same time a person for whom quality, seriousness and respect counts greatly.
For me, therapy is the meaning of my life. It is the way I feel to contribute to a better life and world for our children and us.
My work and my life have been greatly influenced by the philosophical principles of integrative psychotherapy. The assimilation of these principles was not an easy task for me, but I finally succeeded and am very proud of this. This has profoundly influenced my work, because it allowed me to create relationships based on contact with people and to look at them and understand them with a depth and a level of acceptance that I would not have previously been able to imagine in my life or my profession.
Following this assimilation work last year, I built a site I called youareok.ro, just to celebrate this integration of our philosophy. With every client I work with, I remember that a relationship that heals the wounds of the past is worth more than ten techniques that treat a symptom. And my favourite quote is (from Guntrip): “We seek persons, not pleasures”.
As you have just become a Certified Integrative Psychotherapist in Montpellier, we would like to know about your experience. What would you like to say to the therapists considering going through the certification process?
Both the process of preparing for certification and the process of evaluation have been great opportunities for me to explore myself in depth as a person and as a therapist. And, in the same time, every step of my preparation has been another reminder why I love so much being an integrative psychotherapist.
For me, the certification is a celebration of my work from all these years so far and is also a true commitment to go on with love and responsibility. To paraphrase Richard, in fact everything I did so far was a preparation, even when I did not know it 🙂
One thing I would like to say briefly, because I would actually talk incessantly about the integrative therapy created by Richard Erskine:
The most important thing I have deeply understood during my certification process is that the essential aspect that makes a therapist a good therapist is his/her personal degree of integration, his/her depth as a person, his/her ability to have a nuanced, profound and clear understanding of another person - these are the elements that allow us to support the client on his way to his personal truth, to the healing discovery of and contact with his or her real self, to the sustainable transformation of his script, to the development of his stable and balanced integrating adult.
The personal integration of the therapist is his/her most important work and is a continuous inner process that lasts a whole life with constant personal effort, so that he, the therapist, can be the clear and gentle mirror in which another person, coming into his office, to be able to see and find himself.
Embark on this journey and you will discover something absolutely awesome. First of all, Yourself.
Tell us one thing most people wouldn’t know about you
Because I read so much, and because I'm very serious in my work, people might think I'm a complicated or too sophisticated person. In fact, I really like to laugh and to travel and enjoy life in a simple way.