Thank you, Christian Boisson, for your important confrontation.
Your words made an impact on me and stimulated me to think differently about what I wrote on April 11 to Lily. In that post I made a major professional and personal error that I want to correct.
In the posting of April 11, I complimented Lily for her sensitivity towards her client and her willingness to not worry about the coronavirus when she held her client. My initial reaction was that this is a wonderful story about Lily’s care and concern for him and that he is fortunate to have her. If I had been thinking clearly I would NOT have said those words in this time of our current Crisis.
Christian has raised a much larger issue. We all have an obligation to uphold the law. The current law in France does not allow non-family members to be any closer than two meters. I failed to keep this in mind.
Ethically we all have an ETHICAL commitment: our most important responsibility is to our CLIENT’S WELFARE — not only to their mental health but to their physical health, particularly in this time of the coronavirus.
I focused on the psychological needs of the client and failed to see the larger picture — the physical health of each person. Lily did not know if she was a carrier of the virus or if he was infected. In hindsight I would have encouraged Lily to do something similar to what John Hallett suggested. Perhaps I would have acknowledged his need to be held, the importance of his need, and then invite him to imagine being held and comforted.
As I write this I pray that both Lily and her client remain healthy. We are living in exceptional times. This short note is an apology to Lily and all our members for my losing sight of how things are different in each of our lives because of this virus. Thank you, Christian, for your confrontation!